“Eighty percent of all choices are based on fear. Most people don’t choose what they want; they choose what they think is safe.” ~ Phil McGraw
Life is a gamble at times. The odds may be good, they may be bad or they may be “ever in your favor.” Destiny. Fate. Kismet. Serendipity.
A month ago, I posted about an opportunity that was presented to me. . .and these words were included in that post:
“While I am excited about the possibility, I am also afraid. Afraid of moving away from family. Afraid of uprooting my children from their friends. Afraid of looking for a home and moving. Afraid of my ex-‘s reaction if I get a job offer. Afraid of failing if this is not the right job.”
I submitted the resume. I interviewed. An offer was made and I accepted. Sometimes the want outweighs the fear. Does it feel “safe” ? Not at all. I’ve had moments when I feel like I’m free-falling down the rabbit hole and will end up like Alice in Wonderland.
In the past month, I’ve perused the housing market, checked the schools, examined crime rates, and reviewed neighborhoods.
In the past week:
- I’ve flown to my interview and back home over two days,
- Met with a realtor and looked at a home,
- Applied for pre-approved financing,
- Made a plan to have a moving sale to be able to start fresh w/ new furnishings,
- Made an offer on the home mentioned above,
- Typed my letter of resignation,
- Broached the subject of moving with the ex-
- And questioned my sanity every step of the way
In my interview, I was asked, “why should we hire you?”. When it was my turn to ask questions, I asked, ” Why should I come work for you?”
I’m uprooting my life and my family to move 12 hours away to a location where I have no family, know only a handful of soon-to-be co-workers, have to find housing and schools, and get settled for my dream job. Some folks might say this is insanity, definitely not “safe.”
I say you only live once. Follow your dreams and see where they take you.
One thought on “Life Changing Decisions — Part 2”
So many times you hear stories about missed opportunities because of the concerns/fears you’ve expressed. The strength it takes to challenge those fears is substantial. I would rather take the leap of faith into the relative uncertainty than look back ten years later and have regrets and what ifs. This opportunity could very well be the dream job you believe it to be embrace the journey. While moving away from family and friends and your “comfort zone” increases the physical distance between you it does not however diminish the love and support you have for each other. This may end up being the last physical stop on your professional/personal journey or it may not. Live in the “now” tomorrow is not guaranteed to any of us.