“It’s better to have a short life that is full of what you like doing, than a long life spent in a miserable way.” — Alan Watts
It is funny to me to rediscover things I had consciously (or unconsciously) pushed away in an effort to un-become the person I felt was unworthy. I traded contentment and happiness for overachieving.
I pushed myself to be better, to be smarter, to be more successful, to achieve more academically. Because if I wasn’t “enough” before, surely achieving more would make me more valuable. Or loveable. Or worthy. Right?
And in the process of achieving, I lost myself.
The beautiful thing about every day is that I get to design what I do, to an extent. First of all I get to determine my attitude on waking. Do I want to be happy or sad or excited? I choose happy.
Then my actions stem from my attitude. Simple things such as washing dishes, walking the dog, even sorting laundry. . .these are the things that bring me pleasure.
I obviously have to work, to pay bills, but my attitude towards my job determines how my shift goes. Frustrating things occur in my nursing job but I’ve found that working part-time in EMS makes the full-time nursing job less frustrating. Doing something I love, makes the “have-to” job more palatable.
Doing something I love, even for a short time, has wonderful effects on other aspects of life. Reading a few chapters of a book is not laziness. I don’t always have to be “doing” or be productive to make time count.
Self-care has once again become important. I remember taking time every week to relax in a warm bath. That had gone by the wayside, seeming to be too frivolous. Or perhaps my esteem was so low that I felt I didn’t deserve or hadn’t earned that luxury.
I recently took a trip, sans kids, to surprise a wonderful friend. (Some say you should marry your best friend.) In the past 5 years, travel was relegated to training, work or planning a vacation with the kids in mind. Never solely something I did for myself. And while this wasn’t solely for my benefit, the time away did wonders for my psyche.
This whole process of rediscovering who I am and what makes me happy promises to be exciting and entertaining. LOL
I am designing a life I love!